As human beings we seem to have an insatiable hunger for being right. We love to be right. When we believe negative things about ourselves we are constantly looking for things to support those beliefs about ourselves. We are human and we love to be right about things so every time we find something else that backs up our negative belief about yourself, it’s like we get this sense of negative gratification that says see… I am right…
For example if you believe that you are fat, you will obsess about the people who are thinner than you. You will notice them all the time and every time you notice another person that is smaller than you, you feed your belief that you are fat.
If you believe you are always left out then you will look for opportunities to back this up. These friends got together without me, these people had a party and didn’t invite me, all these people got a Christmas card from so and so but I didn’t. Every time we utter the words, I wasn’t invited we feed the belief that we are always left out.
If you believe that you never have the things that other people have then you will seek out situations that support this belief. You will be friends with people who often have more than you, so you can constantly hear about and see what they have that you don’t. You will watch shows on TV like Cribs or other shows that showcase wealth and material possession and you will be reminded of how far you are from that world. You will think and talk a lot about the people in your life who have more than you. You will talk about their nice things and their nice cars and the trips they take as a constant reminder of what you don’t have.
These are just a couple of examples of things we can believe about ourselves. Other things might be I believe I am powerless, I believe I am a victim, I believe I am an underdog, I believe I am stupid, I believe I am out of shape, I believe I am poor, I believe I am inadequate, I believe I am not spiritual enough, I believe I am a bad person, I believe I am ugly. Now is there any truth to these beliefs? Are there people who are fat, always left out and always have less than other people? Are there people who are inadequate, poor, stupid, bad or powerless?
I will answer that question in tomorrow’s post but for now… What do you think?
In my BC days, I could so relate to this. Happily … not so much anymore. However, when I became a Christian I have to say that I used to covet other people’s spirituality believing that they “knew” Jesus better than I did. What a waste of time. The greatest thing about a relationship is getting to know the object of your affection. Thank God I have examples of Godly people in my life who walk out their faith and teach me what is really important in life.
Always right, of course I am just ask my husband. We actually have a little dance routine when he gets it right. Kidding aside.. Once and a while these kind of thoughts do kreep in. And sometimes it’s just easier to give in to the enemy, to self pitty but what does that give us in the end. NOTHING.. GUILT.. SHAME Taking the narrow path is messy and tricky like walking on a tight rope or a hiking trail in the rain. In the end, we find peace, fulfillment, forgiveness, eternal life. Now how wonderful is our God to always provide for us. I ask you what is impossible for our God? NOTHING. I pray everyday to remove words like impossible, I can’t, not enough from my life. My God tells me to dream big for He has big plans for me. My God tells me to Live Big for my life is larger than I can ever expect. So I pray to always be right about God and about myself in the eyes of God.
Hi Lori,
I’m sure that there are a lot of people who do like to be right and I think there are many who really just don’t care. I don’t believe that situations are right or wrong. Everybody has opinions and thoughts and as soon as we label someone as “wrong” that means that someone else has to be “right” and vice versa. How can we determine what is right or wrong in someone else’s life? We can’t. Someone’s choice maybe right for their life but it wouldn’t be right for mine but that doesn’t make it any less right for them. And if I were to label it as “wrong” then I’m imposing my choices into their life.
We are all blessed in different ways and I believe we are blessed according to God’s purpose in our lives. God will bless us and provide us with whatever we need to reach our greatest potential according to His plans for us.
The body of Christ can work better together in unison to further the Kingdom of God if we embrace and encourage each other regardless of what we have and don’t have. First and foremost we are children of God. We have to constantly be in the mindset that “we are in this world but not of it.” The moment we start comparing ourselves to each other, we begin to be “of this world.”
A need to be right only gives glory to one…our egos. The more we can trascend our egos, the more humble we can be in our approach to life and our walk with Christ.
Have an awesome, sunny Wednesday,
love and blessings
Shelley
Being right does not “do it” for me…not that there is anything wrong with being right. Too often the price of being right is not worth paying. Now helping others find their own personal connection with Jesus, our one and only Saviour…that is worth putting effort into. In the end that is the only thing that will be worth anything. However I do think there is something that pulls humans to somehow be right. I think God is much more omnieverything than we comprehend and it is hard for us to get it. You know, in the Bible when Joshua asks the angel of the Lord, “Are you with us or our enemy?” The angel answers, “Neither.” I wonder if it is sometimes hard for us humans to grasp that God is so much more than our understanding and His agape love super cedes our human abilities most often. I think we only get glimpses of it, in our most spiritual moments. God is so great.
Being right does not “do it” for me…not that there is anything wrong with being right. Too often the price of being right is not worth paying. Now helping others find their own personal connection with Jesus, our one and only Saviour…that is worth putting effort into. In the end that is the only thing that will be worth anything. However I do think there is something that pulls humans to somehow be right. I think God is much more omnieverything than we comprehend and it is hard for us to get it. You know, in the Bible when Joshua asks the angel of the Lord, “Are you with us or our enemy?” The angel answers, “Neither.” I wonder if it is sometimes hard for us humans to grasp that God is so much more than our understanding and His agape love super cedes our human abilities most often. I think we only get glimpses of it, in our most spiritual moments. God is so great.
Being right does not “do it” for me…not that there is anything wrong with being right. Too often the price of being right is not worth paying. Now helping others find their own personal connection with Jesus, our one and only Saviour…that is worth putting effort into. In the end that is the only thing that will be worth anything. However I do think there is something that pulls humans to somehow be right. I think God is much more omnieverything than we comprehend and it is hard for us to get it. You know, in the Bible when Joshua asks the angel of the Lord, “Are you with us or our enemy?” The angel answers, “Neither.” I wonder if it is sometimes hard for us humans to grasp that God is so much more than our understanding and His agape love super cedes our human abilities most often. I think we only get glimpses of it, in our most spiritual moments. God is so great.
Being right does not “do it” for me…not that there is anything wrong with being right. Too often the price of being right is not worth paying. Now helping others find their own personal connection with Jesus, our one and only Saviour…that is worth putting effort into. In the end that is the only thing that will be worth anything. However I do think there is something that pulls humans to somehow be right. I think God is much more omnieverything than we comprehend and it is hard for us to get it. You know, in the Bible when Joshua asks the angel of the Lord, “Are you with us or our enemy?” The angel answers, “Neither.” I wonder if it is sometimes hard for us humans to grasp that God is so much more than our understanding and His agape love super cedes our human abilities most often. I think we only get glimpses of it, in our most spiritual moments. God is so great.
Being right does not “do it” for me…not that there is anything wrong with being right. Too often the price of being right is not worth paying. Now helping others find their own personal connection with Jesus, our one and only Saviour…that is worth putting effort into. In the end that is the only thing that will be worth anything. However I do think there is something that pulls humans to somehow be right. I think God is much more omnieverything than we comprehend and it is hard for us to get it. You know, in the Bible when Joshua asks the angel of the Lord, “Are you with us or our enemy?” The angel answers, “Neither.” I wonder if it is sometimes hard for us humans to grasp that God is so much more than our understanding and His agape love super cedes our human abilities most often. I think we only get glimpses of it, in our most spiritual moments. God is so great.
Oh man!!! so sorry…I am having technical difficulties to say the least.
I can so relate to this. I spent last summer walking with a friend and, often she would say to me during our talks “you like to be right don’t you” . She made this comment often enough that I started to really pay attention and try to understand why she made such a comment. It took a while but I finally realized I needed to be right because it gave me a sense of selfworth because, I felt, if I’m right then I’ve got more to offer than if I’m wrong. I’ve since realized that people don’t like to be around others who like to be right all the time and I’ve also since realize that being right or wrong doesn’t matter – it’s more important to have a heart that’s in the right place, a heart that loves unconditionally and is right with God.
I’m so middle road with this.
In some ways, especially in my career, I’m always right. I’m in a male dominant career and seeing a woman just freaks them out, and then to find out I have a brain throws them. Anyways, So I’m very confident and very “right”.
But then there’s other times it’s okay for me to be wrong. Does it hurt my esteem? not really!! I just move on. I think if we are always right, we can’t always see the truth in our weakenesses. Then we mask God’s grace in our lives, by our control to be right.
Believe or not, you just clarified a theory of mine on the Bible.
Nothing serious, I am just comparing Septuagint and MT as well as comparing Textus Receptus versus Codices of Sinaiticus and Vaticanus. I keep hearing statments from one side or the other and in these arguments, these scholars keep interjecting verses to support their views. Many of these times, these verses have no place in their discussion.
You have just shown me that if you want to see something, you will. Instead, what does God’s will have for you. What is Christ’s love for you?
Hi Babe:
I have been feeding on this very thought. It breaks my heart to see the shape some people are in – you can look at them and tell that they do not value their life – they are broken and they look it. If only we really beleived we had the power from GOD to change peoples lives & direction. Maybe then we would not have the need to be right! Sometimes we hide our own imperfections behind the “being right syndrome” As long as we are right about something, we don’t have to deal with all our own wrong – wrong thoughts & issues! When we see the wrong in others, it can make us feel a bit better about ourselves – What is that!! We should “feel for others” not always turn everything back to me! Oh boy, will we ever get it right!!Really Right, heart, attitude, mind, body and spirit!!! Gotta lot of work to do! In me First, not “me” first!!! Keep up the great job, stirring up our thoughts!